Single Women: Do These 5 Things While You’re Waiting – Part One
Single women, it’s wonderful being single. Don’t you agree? This is the perfect time to get close to God, depend on Him and get to know the real you, while waiting with excitement – in faith – to meet your prince.
And let me tell you, he’s in for a treat. “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.” ~ Proverbs 18:22.
Do you believe you’re a good thing? If you don’t, it’s time to renew your mind. If your ex abused you physically, financially, sexually or emotionally, don’t carry that excess baggage into your future. God can repair all past damages. It doesn’t matter how bad or traumatic it was. Allow God to heal and restore. He did it for me and He can do it for you.
Did you know that you’re fearfully and wonderfully made? You’re beautiful and unique. Don’t see yourself any less than a good thing.
I love this verse. “A prudent wife is a gift from the Lord.” Are there any men out there who do not like gifts, especially when they’re gorgeously wrapped? You are that gift. You’re not just any old recycled gift though. You’re a special gift from God. And, in His own time He will present you to your prince.
While you’re waiting, love yourself. Respect yourself. Save yourself for your prince. He is the only one who should unwrap you, on the night of your honeymoon.
Love is sweet and life is precious. Live it God’s way and you’ll find peace.
I know it’s challenging to be a single woman. You get days when loneliness knock at your door. And at times you wonder if you will ever get married. But, try not to bathe in self-pity. Also, don’t allow confusion to take control of your mind. Listen to God. He knows best and He wants the finest for you.
Let’s look at what you can do while you’re waiting for your prince.
1. Learn from other women
Some of the best role models are women who have been married for many years. You can learn a lot from their lives. Speak to them. Ask them what they do to keep their marriage going. Find out their secrets to a long-term, happy marriage.
There are also women in the bible who you can use as role models. Ruth is an amazing example of a strong, humble and loving woman. She loved her mother-in-law, Naomi, immensely. And she served her without complaint. She was extremely hard-working, dedicated and full of faith.
Boaz admired Ruth’s unselfish nature and caring attitude. He was impressed and attracted to her by those qualities. That’s why he chose her to be his wife. Read her story here in Ruth 1-4.
Another biblical role model is Queen Esther. She was another strong, humble woman. Despite being the most beautiful woman in the land, her motive was to serve and please the king. In addition, her selfless nature and determination saved her people. She had fear and doubts at times. But that didn’t stop her from drawing from the strength of God to accomplish what she set out to do. Her loyalty, dedication and love for her people won the King’s heart. Read her story here in Esther 1-10.
2. Keep temptation at bay
Temptation can push you over the edge. Especially if you haven’t had sex for a while. Your new man hugs you. Then you kiss. That leads to you falling into each other’s arms. His hands are roaming all over you, the heat is on and passion is flying high. When that happens, it’s easy to take it to the next stage, especially if you plan to get married.
But hold on. Save sex for the honeymoon. As a Christian woman, it’s wrong to commit fornication, which is to have sex before marriage (1 Corinthians 6:18). Sex can mess up your emotions. You could easily confuse lust for love. On top of that, what if he doesn’t want to marry you after you’ve bonded sexually? Don’t be controlled by lust or sex. Let God control you instead.
3. Don’t be a proud sister
Humility is the opposite of pride. God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble (James 4:6). The danger of being proud is that it can lead to selfishness. When everything is about you, or if the word ‘I’ dominate your conversations, you’re not ready for a relationship. You will carry the pride into your new relationship, unless you surrender it to God. Ask Him to show you how to truly love others. “… Love is not proud” ~ 1 Corinthians 13:4.
4. Work on self-development for a better future
Single women, use this time wisely. My relationship with God took on new meaning since I’ve been single. I have had more time to develop myself spiritually. You can do the same. Why not take it further and develop yourself emotionally and physically too. This is a fantastic package as you’ll be improving your whole quality of life.
First, work on developing your spiritual life. Give God the quality time due to Him. Read the word, meditate, pray, praise and worship and enhance your relationship with God. If you belong to a church, help out where there’s a need for another pair of hands. Do you like singing? Put that talent to good use and join the praise and worship team or choir. If you enjoy working with people or children, consider ushering or teaching at the Sunday school.
Lacking in self-confidence? Do something to develop it. Think positively. Don’t let fear consume you. Work on your self-esteem by developing new skills. Go to college or evening classes. Let your creativity flow. Enroll in a course and start a new hobby. Or maybe you’ve always wanted to write a book? Take a creative writing course and get started.
Join the gym, get exercising or learn new dance moves like salsa. You’ll meet new friends. When your self-confidence grows, you’ll glow with beauty from the inside out. And attract like-minded people.
5. Don’t be desperate to start a relationship
Loneliness can drive you into the arms of the wrong man. Everyone around you are loved up and you want some loving too. But are you ready for a relationship? Don’t be fooled into thinking there’s something wrong with being a single woman. There are some married women out there who would love to swap places with you.
Having a man on your arm isn’t the answer to happiness. Be patient or you might get burned. Going into the wrong relationship will cost you emotionally. Red this article I wrote about rushing into relationships. Pray and wait on God. While you’re waiting, prepare yourself spiritually, emotionally and physically.
This is a three-part series for single women waiting to meet their prince. Subscribe to make sure you don’t miss part two and part three.
Over to you…
Can you add anything to this list? How is your journey as a single woman? Please share your thoughts in the comment box below.