Single Women: Do These 3 Things While You’re Waiting – Part Two
Last week we looked at five things you can do while waiting on God for your prince. After the article went live, one of my readers left a comment. Her words touched my heart.
She said, “I have been single now for about 14 years after my second divorce. I like my time alone, but now I’m feeling like my life doesn’t have any meaning. I believe in God and I’m a Christian, but sometimes I feel this way. I know that I need to study God’s word more and meditate daily, but I get some distractions in my day so I go about doing other things. No excuse. Hope others are not going through what I’m going through, and we need to all pray for guidance from God above.”
The last sentence “Hope others are not going through what I’m going through…” is an indication that she’s feeling challenged. I’m sure you can relate to that. I know I can.
Because of her comment, I decided to change the original content I had prepared for this article. I’m writing about the main points she mentioned instead.
Why? She is real, with real issues.
The thing is, I can write about what I think you should do while waiting for your prince. But, it’s more beneficial to write about the stuff single Christian women (including me) are going through.
- Get healing after a divorce or distressing breakup
My second marriage was explosive. I went through emotional and domestic violence which affected me and my daughters. My marriage ended in violence. After the divorce I needed healing. And God totally healed me. Although, it took a long time, because I had years of emotional hurt buried inside.
When you’ve come out of a bad relationship or marriage, you will need healing from the pain and heartaches. Otherwise, you’ll carry the messy, damaged baggage into your next relationship. On top of that, you’ll probably be an emotional wreck.
“God wants to make you whole. He doesn’t want you to spend the rest of your life hurting.” – Joyce Meyers
God is the only one that can go deep inside, bathe your heart with His love and heal all the pain, misery or other negative emotions. Healing sometimes take place through tears and prayer. Don’t be afraid to open up to God. He sees your heart and feel your pain.
“O Lord my God, I cried to You and You have healed me.”- Psalm 30:2. He will deliver you out of your distress (Psalm 34: 15,17). Nothing is hidden from Him.
Also, an important part of the healing process is forgiveness. Depending on what you’ve been through, it could be difficult. But you have to forgive. Otherwise, you’ll be chained to the other person. Forgiving those who hurt you will help the healing process. And it will make it easier to move on with your life afterwards.
- Value your life and love yourself
There’s nothing worse than feeling that your life is meaningless. That damaging emotion will lure you to give up. That is not the answer. Your life is precious. You only get one chance to live it. Instead of thinking you’re insignificant, give thanks for the gift of life. Many people with terminal illnesses would love the opportunity to live. Instead, they’re facing death.
Consider this wonderful Psalm. “You are wonderfully and fearfully made…” Psalm 139:14. No matter what you’re going through, you’re a beautiful person.
You were born pure and beautiful. However, the trials and complexities of life shaped you into the woman you are today. Destructive relationships may have left you feeling useless. Nevertheless, in God’s eyes you are valuable and special. He loves you and wants the best for you. See yourself the way God sees you.
There is nothing wrong with loving yourself. In fact, it’s hard to love someone else unless you first love yourself.
Here are some love tips:
- First of all, believe that God loves you unconditionally because He does.
- Embrace your strengths and work on improving your weaknesses.
- Spend quality time with yourself doing the things you enjoy.
- Block out other people’s opinions about your singleness or their views about your life.
- Accept that there is always someone better than you.
- Love you for who you are.
- Spend quality time studying and meditating on God’s word
The best way to study and meditate is to develop a regular routine. Choose a ‘my time with God’ period during the day or night. Stick to it. The ideal time is when you’re less likely to get any distractions.
Listening to praise and worship songs sets the mood for me. It connects me with God and my mind is more receptive as I read the bible. It might help to have a pen, pad and dictionary with you.
As you study and meditate, read the sentence from the chosen chapter slowly. Focus on each word. Look up unfamiliar words and write down the meaning. Keep re-reading the sentence till it fills your mind and sink deep into your spirit.
The words you read will give you hope, build your faith and renew your mind.
Single women face one of the biggest challenges. You spend a lot of time alone. And it’s easy to let dangerous thoughts dominate your mind.
“…As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7. Learn to control the battlefield of your mind with life-giving words. Joyce Meyer’s book, ‘Battlefield of the Mind‘ is a fantastic book for de-cluttering your mind.
In conclusion, waiting for your prince is an exciting time. Use the days, months or even years to prepare yourself.
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Over to you…
Can you add anything to this list? Have you been struggling as a single woman? Please share your thoughts in the comment box below.