Single Women: Do These 3 Things While You’re Waiting – Part Three
I’m going to be real with you. The single lifestyle can be challenging at times. I should know. I’ve been single for nearly 10 years. Looking back, I wonder how I made it this far. But I did and I wouldn’t change it for anything. Do you know why? Because I have achieved a lot in that time. But I didn’t do it alone. God was by my side every step of the way.
Remember, God is with you too. He will guide you, strengthen you and love you if you allow Him. Open your heart to Him. Be strong, smile often and live each day as they come. Don’t worry about the future because it’s in God’s hands.
“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.” Proverbs 31:25 (NLT).
Let’s look at three fantastic ways to rock being single…
1. Spend quality time with yourself
One of the biggest issues some single women struggle with is lack of self-worth. There’s nothing wrong with being single. Don’t beat yourself up over it. Love who you are. Instead of feeling bad because everyone around you is all loved-up, pour that energy into yourself. Use it to focus on you. Invest quality time on yourself.
It’s easy to neglect yourself, especially if you have a family to look after. While you’re running around looking after them, working, studying or running a business, you simply don’t have time for yourself. Well, that’s how it seems anyway. But with a little adjustment to your time management, you can have the quality time you deserve for yourself.
First, choose a day, afternoon or evening for ‘me time’. Arrange babysitters if you need someone to watch your child.
There are a number of things you can do…
- Treat yourself to a spa day out.
- Buy yourself lunch or dinner at an exclusive restaurant. If you’re on a tight budget, go for a coffee and muffin or lip-smacking cake at Starbucks.
- Book into a hotel for an overnight stay.
- Take a trip to the cinema and watch a film.
- Or jump on the bus to a park outside your area. When you get there, relax on a bench and read a book or your kindle. Take a leisurely stroll afterwards. Wrap up properly if it’s a chilly day.
When you come home, light some lovely smelly candles and place them around the bathroom. Run a lovely, bubbly hot bath. Lay in the bath and connect with God. Speak to Him. Open up and tell Him what’s on your mind. Talk to Him like you’re talking to your best friend. It’s great. I love doing that. Thank Him for your life and your family. Sing to Him. Worship Him. When you step out of that bath, you’ll feel refreshed and peaceful.
Make your ‘me time’ a weekly event. Plan out what you will do each week, and enjoy.
2. Prepare yourself emotionally and physically
After my second divorce, I was an emotional wreck. I cried a lot and carried around pent-up anger that exploded quickly at my children. I took out my misery on the wrong people. I didn’t eat properly, smoked a lot and drank too much alcohol. I lost weight and didn’t fit into my clothes. They were baggy and hung on me. That made me even more miserable.
If you find yourself in a similar place, you need to take action. Otherwise, your state of mind could affect your health and well-being. Having someone to talk to helps. It could be a trusted friend, your pastor, a counscellor or anyone that’s prepared to listen without being judgmental.
Praying is also a wonderful healing therapy for your emotional health. Pour out your hurts and pains to God, cry, shout or do whatever it takes to get it off your chest. He always listens. And He will give you strength to carry on.
To improve your physical health, eat a balanced diet which includes fruits, lots of vegetables, starchy foods such as potatoes, bread, rice and pasta (the brown varieties are better). Also eat some meat, fish, eggs, beans and other non-dairy sources of protein. Drink plenty of water. The recommended amount is eight glasses each day.
Exercise regularly. You don’t have to join a gym to exercise. Go for long walks, ride a bicycle, join dance classes, Zumba or go running. Other forms of exercise can be done at home such as sit-ups, push-ups, leg lifts or stretching. Instead of driving to the shops or to do the school run, walk.
Getting a good night’s sleep is essential for maintaining your physical and emotional health. The recommended amount of sleep (7 or 8 hours) will restore your body, repair your cells and energise your brains.
3. Live like you are loved
“Dance. Smile. Giggle. Marvel. TRUST. HOPE. LOVE. WISH. BELIEVE. Most of all, enjoy every moment of the journey, and appreciate where you are at this moment instead of always focusing on how far you have to go.” ~ Mandy Hale
Let’s face it, if you want a peaceful life, embrace your singleness. Instead of feeling like an outcast in society, sad and lonely, love this time in your life. Use the months or even years as a single woman to live your life to the fullest.
Don’t wait till you meet a man to..
- Walk down the road smiling like someone in love.
- Put on your makeup, perfume and dress to impress every morning.
- Get your hair, eyebrows and nails done regularly. This will bring out the feel-good factor.
- Cook healthy, delicious meals for yourself.
- Watch silly, funny comedy shows or films and laugh out loud by yourself.
- Treat yourself to an expensive outfit, dress up and take you out on a me date.
- Feel good about yourself because a man loves you. Jesus loves you every minute of the day.
In conclusion, the single life may not always be easy, but it’s a great way to get in touch with yourself. It’s the best feeling when you know who you are and what you want from life. And it’s a wonderful opportunity to develop your self-confidence, if you struggle in that area.
My experience as a single woman is that I am able to connect with God like never before. I know that He loves me unconditionally and that’s a wonderful feeling. So, until your Boaz comes along (ask God to send him to you) keep loving yourself and enjoy the single journey.
“Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream for love…but don’t put your life on hold waiting for love.” ~ Mandy Hale
Over to you…
What do you do when loneliness kick in? How do you deal with it? And what’s the best thing about being single? Please share your thoughts in the comment box below.
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