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Am I Still Waiting on God?

Am I Still Waiting on God?

By on Aug 15, 2012 in Single & Blessed | 8 comments

In August 2011 I wrote an article ‘Waiting on God’ on my other blog Miraculous Ladies. It was a short account of my single journey while I waited on God for a Godly man.

My single status prayer and God

Well, would you like to know if I’m still waiting on God? The answer is yes! I’m still waiting. And it’s now a massive six years and seven months.

Once in a while I still dream about the things I would enjoy if I had a man in my life.

Here are a few of them:

  • Studying the bible, praising and worshipping together.
  • Spending quality time together.
  • Work on living out 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 (Love) in our lives.
  • Enjoying delicious, romantic candle lit meals.
  • Supporting each other with scriptures, positive words and lots of cuddles.
  • Sharing ideas and making plans for the future together.

I still believe God will answer my prayer. In His own time. But it has to click with my time as well. He knows my heart. And He knows if I’m ready for a relationship or not. That’s why I’m still waiting.

One of the biggest challenges of being single is having to live with loneliness. When that feeling takes control of me, I could easily rush into a relationship. But is it worth it? Short-term gain can turn into long-term pain.

How much longer am I prepared to wait?

Being single and waiting on God is a two-way process. He’s not going to just send a man to come knocking on my door. Nor is He going to make a man drop out of the sky and fall next to me on the road. Oh no…

I have to actively play my part in the search for my dream man.

These are some of the things I have to put into action:

  • First, I must pray and ask God for His guidance. He should be involved in the dating process as well.
  • I have to make sure I’m available spiritually, emotionally and physically.
  • I must remember to smile when I’m out in public. A male friend saw me driving one afternoon. He called me a few hours later to ask why I looked so serious. He also told me that if he was a potential partner, the look on my face would have put him off. 🙂
  • I have to get out there and go to places where I could meet my man. Those places could be at Christian singles conferences, concerts or Christian speed dating events. Another avenue is to join Christian online dating agencies. Although, this will be last on my list based on previous experiences.

But the question is, am I really ready to meet my man? To be honest, I’m not quite ready yet. I’m probably 80% there!

And yes, most of the time I do enjoy my singleness. I’m still loving having the bed all to myself. I can toss and turn as much as I like. It’s fantastic being able to do that, especially in the summer when it’s hot.

Patience is the key

Do you know how I’ve managed to stay celibate and single for over six years? I made a covenant with God that I wouldn’t have sex with another man until I get married again. On top of that, I’ve developed strong self-control and lots of patience.

Patience was something I had to pray hard for. Patience as a single woman has taught me a great deal about myself. Much more than I thought I knew last August. There were some areas of my life which needed developing. I’ve been doing a lot of deep soul-searching and necessary character building.

My spiritual life has taken on a new meaning. My relationship with God has improved. My prayer life has also gone to another level.

Most importantly, I’ve been going through a cleansing process. God is restoring my heart. I’ve been off-loading old negative, emotional baggage. And inner healing has been taking place during the waiting period.

The next time around I have to attract the right kind of man

I read somewhere that you need to ‘become the man you want to meet’. Sounds a bit strange doesn’t it? But it makes a lot of sense.

In my past relationships I attracted insecure men. That’s because they were similar to the woman I was during those times. Insecurity was one of my weaknesses. And, I was looking for love to make me feel secure. But it doesn’t work that way.

So my point is this. I must develop the qualities within myself that I would like my ideal man to have.

Michelle Williams summed it up by saying, ‘Become the man you want to marry.’ I’ve taken that on. What qualities do I find attractive, and can I find them in myself? What am I missing? Can I be that for myself?”

Keep on waiting

I know that when the time is right, I will meet that Godly man of my dreams. Until then, I will continue to develop myself spiritually, emotionally and mentally. Singleness is to be embraced. It’s a time to grow in areas that’s been stagnant.

Every day is a blessing and it doesn’t matter if I spend it alone. Anyway, I’m not alone because God’s with me. And He loves me unconditionally.

Good things always come to those who wait! So I will keep waiting on God. “For from of old no one has heard nor perceived by the ear, nor has the eye seen a God besides You, Who works and shows Himself active on behalf of him who [earnestly] waits for Him.” Isaiah 64:4.

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Are you a single woman waiting on God too? Has the experience changed your life?

 

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I'm June, a self-published author, freelance copywriter and blogger. This blog is a mixture of real stories, testimonies and useful advice. Most of the articles here are based on biblical principles. If you have a testimony to share, I would love to publish it to inspire other readers.

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  1. While I agree with everything you just said, I have to admit the smiling thing caught me off guard! It’s so true and it’s something that we don’t think about. When women walk around with a puss on their face, men view them as unapproachable. We don’t want to be unapproachabel!!!! 🙂
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    • Sometimes we’re so used to frowning that we don’t even realise we’re doing it. I carry all my worries on my face. My facial expressions can tell you exactly how I’m feeling inside. Sometimes, I have to consciously remember to smile! 🙂

  2. I do agree with you but I think that waiting can help us in order to become wise and strong. It is just like a relationship, in order to be compatible with others. Patience will always come into it.
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    • Waiting is good. It stops you from rushing in and choosing the wrong person for the wrong reasons. And yes, it does help you to become wise and build strength of character.

      • Such a kind words you have shared Junie. Well, you are right from what you have said, rushing things is not good because it can lead you to have wrong decisions.
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  3. Wow, fantastic weblog format! How lengthy have you ever been blogging for? you made blogging glance easy. The entire glance of your website is magnificent, as smartly as the content!

    • Thank you. I’ve been blogging for over a year now. I’ve started my first blog last April. Thanks for reading. 🙂

    • This is beautiful. There is hope in the watiing. Don’t miss out on the beauty of becoming, the aching beauty of the silence, as you wait. God has promised and planned. It is worth the wait – and sometimes, it is in the watiing itself that we discover just what it is we are watiing for. ~ Yes, this.

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