Am I Still Waiting on God?

In August 2011 I wrote an article ‘Waiting on God’ on my other blog Miraculous Ladies. It was a short account of my single journey while I waited on God for a Godly man.

My single status prayer and God

Well, would you like to know if I’m still waiting on God? The answer is yes! I’m still waiting. And it’s now a massive 6 years and 7 months.

Once in a while I still dream about the things I would enjoy if I had a man in my life.

Here are a few of them:

• Reading the bible, praying and having fellowship together.
• Pouring out my love to him in exchange for his love.
  
• Having nice conversations while sharing romantic candle lit meals, prepared by me.
• Supporting each other with positive words, hugs and encouragement.
• Sharing ideas and making plans for the future together.
  

I still believe God will answer my prayer. In His own time. But it has to click with my time as well. He knows my heart. And He knows if I’m ready for a relationship or not.

One of the the biggest challenges of being single is having to live with loneliness. When that feeling takes control of me, I could easily rush into a relationship. But is it worth it? Short-term gain can turn into long-term pain!

How much longer am I prepared to wait?

Being single and waiting on God is a two-way process. He’s not going to just send a man to come knocking on my door. Nor is He going to make a man drop out of the sky and fall next to me on the road. Oh no!

I have to actively play my part in the search for my dream man.

These are some of the things I have to put into action:

• First I must pray and ask God for His guidance. He should be involved in the dating process as well.
• I have to make sure I’m available spiritually, emotionally and physically.
• I must remember to smile when I’m out in public. A male friend saw me driving one afternoon. He called me a few hours later to ask why I looked so serious. He also told me that if he was a potential partner, the look on my face would have put him off.
  
• I have to get out there and go to places where I could meet my man. Those places could be at Christian singles conferences, concerts or Christian speed dating events. Another avenue is to join Christian online dating agencies.
  

But the question is, am I really ready to meet my man? To be honest, I’m not quite ready yet. I’m probably 80% there!

And yes, most of the time I do enjoy my singleness. I’m still loving having the bed all to myself. I can toss and turn as much as I like. I feel great and I feel blessed.

Patience is the key

Do you know how I’ve manage to stay single for over 6 years and not even kiss a man? I’ve got the fear of God. To add to that I’ve developed strong self-control and have lots of patience.

Patience was something I had to pray hard for. Patience as a single woman has taught me a great deal about myself. Much more than I thought I knew last August. There were some areas of my life which needed developing. I’ve used that time to do some deeper soul-searching and necessary character building.

My spiritual life has taken on a new meaning. My relationship with God has improved. My prayer life has also gone to another level.

Most importantly, I’ve been going through a cleansing process. My heart is being restored. I have been off-loading old negative baggage. And inner healing is taking place during this waiting period.

The next time around I have to attract the right kind of man

I read somewhere that you need to ‘become the man you want to meet’. Sounds a bit strange doesn’t it? But it does make a lot of sense.

In my past relationships I attracted insecure men. That’s because they were similar to who I was deep down inside. Insecurity was my weakness. I was looking for love to make me feel secure. But it doesn’t work that way.

So my point is this. I must develop the qualities within myself that I would like my ideal man to have.

Michelle Williams summed it up by saying, “‘Become the man you want to marry.’ I’ve taken that on. What qualities do I find attractive, and can I find them in myself? What am I missing? Can I be that for myself?”

Keep on waiting

I know that when the time is right I will meet that Godly man of my dreams. In the mean time I will continue to develop myself spiritually and mentally. Singleness is to be embraced. It’s a time to grow in areas that’s been stagnant.

Every day is a blessing and it doesn’t matter if I spend it alone. As far as I’m concerned I’m not alone anyway because God’s with me. And He loves me unconditionally.

Good things always come to those who wait! So I will keep waiting on God. “For from of old no one has heard nor perceived by the ear, nor has the eye seen a God besides You, Who works and shows Himself active on behalf of him who [earnestly] waits for Him.” Isaiah 64:4.

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Are you a single woman waiting on God too? Has the experience changed your life?